Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.
It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.
But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.
If you are strongly sensing something is off about a man, you should go with that feeling.
On the other hand, sometimes women are way off-base with how they perceive men.
If you’re a red-blooded male, you can probably relate – there are certainly worse situations to find yourself in than hooking up with a wide variety of gorgeous women!
Maybe this is the reason why you’re reading this blog, and it’s your dream to live this kind of lifestyle…
Here are some of the many advantages to going on dates with different people while making a decision about who is the best candidate for commitment.
I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?
I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.
The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.